@mkloven101
The working culture in Japan has always been dumb to me. If i get my work done early or on time, i’m going home bruh. I ain’t waiting for no one
@garret918
I had a co-worker, former Marine who is engaged to a South Korean woman. He tried to explain to me the dynamics there, but it just seems to me that the hopes/dreams of young people, the "fire" that keeps people going, has been reduced to embers in the lives of many in the world. It's collectively getting "darker" it seems to me.
@jeremykiahsobyk102
In the USA we call this "Disney Princess Syndrome." Movies and novels set false expectations for love, romance, and marriage, so no-one even knows what real human relationships are even supposed to look like, anymore.
@mr.anonymous123
Men don't have fear of rejection they have a fear of betrayal.
@balex55lp
a BIG Change needs to happen and not only in japan I can assure you that.
@Cryptic0013
It's the same around the "developed" world. Corporations are now the main employers, whereas most people used to work for small or family-owned businesses. When everyone, male and female, young and old, married and single, works for a megacorp that expects you to be totally devoted to work during the same years that are most fertile, you simply cannot sustain your population. There just aren't enough hours in the day for people to be good fathers and mothers while also engaging with corporate (not just Japanese) work culture. And immigration absolutely isn't a solution to this, it's just a band-aid. Once immigrant groups acculturate and join the same workforce, their birthrates become the same as that of the host country. All you're doing is changing the local demographics, but in the long-term, the whole planet's population ends up plummeting as more and more people fall into the corporate hegemony and stop having children or enjoying their lives.
@jmw1982blue
Not just Japan, similar issues in the states as well.
@JackDblade
Its the feeling of betrayal+rejection+abandonment. Ive cut ties with people and it hurts because i trusted them. Blood doesnt mean anything when they take advantage of you. Putting a lot of trust into an individual is a huge leap of faith.
@marks7502
kokuhaku is all over anime, but I thought it was just a trope. thank you for the information
@fourthwallbreak
I've been living in Japan for almost half of my life. I am married and I have a son here in Japan. I also work as a recruiter and own my own recruitment company here. The reason the birthrate is in rapid decline is strictly because the average salary in most industries hasn't been significantly raised since 1995. With the rising cost of living expenses as well as the cost of having children in Japan, it's become nearly unsustainable. The younger generation has given up not only being able to have children but also being able to own a house and other things like that. The government will do anything ANYTHING except push for organizations to raise the salaries of employees in Japan due to corporate lobbying just like in the states. The government is literally using tax money as we speak to make a dating app (as if Tinder and Bumble alongside other Japanese dating apps don't already exist.) But they are not pushing to raise wages or reduce inflation at all whatsoever. That is the reason very few are having children in Japan. And don't get me started on how common and accepted it is is for Japanese couples to cheat on each other as well.
@ramblingrobot4599
If not for immigration the birth rates in europe are around japanese levels. We don't have kokuhaku culture. Even without kokuhaku culture, socializing in general (and not just dating) can be stressful and nowadays its easier than ever to spend time by yourself. Which leads to a spiral of declining social skills and interactions.
@shelovesjayc
I dated a Japanese girl who was divorced. We're both in our 30s. We met through dating app while she was visiting Hong Kong where I currently live in. 2 months later I flew to Tokyo to see her again. We saw each other every singe day while I was there and it kinda hit off. I did kokuhaku on the last day of my trip and she said she liked me too, even offered a little kiss before I go. After I left Tokyo, she told me she needs to focus on her career and is not ready for a serious relationship. Then she completely ghosted me😂I think the dating culture these days also comes into play and it's not limited to Japan. People just couldn't make up their mind. Not to mention how easy for someone to shut down communications which make things worse.
@thorie79
1. Lower testosterone (plastic toxicity). 2. Women climbing career ladders but refuse to date down. 3. Women spending most fertile years in college, work. 4. Culture of independence rather than family. 5. Economic hardship caused by low wages, inflation and high taxes. 6. Large dating markets (unrealistic standards) and social media. And a bunch of other stuff. None of this is getting fixed anytime soon. If anything, it's getting worse year after year.
@skullogyse
The dating explanation was pure gold. Thank you
@skaldofepics9380
It’s nice to hear your take on kokohaku. As someone born and raised in the U.S. and just recently moved to Japan, I actually appreciate the idea of confession. The way I see it, in the west it is like pulling teeth trying to get people to define a relationship. With the confession however, you have a pinpoint moment where it is finely defined.
@aragmarverilian8238
“Affection is the shadow of love.” my great grandmother once said. I agree with your sentiment that people need to engage in a more natural dating process, thus, the media could be used to promote it.
@jkid4855
well you have a point but in Taiwan and Korea where there's no such culture, the birthrates are still declining and worse than Japan. Also Kokuhaku has been around for a while like you said - the problem of not getting married didn't manifest until the last 20 years - kids in the 80's are doing Kokuhaku and still getting married and having kids. I think the issue is much more than just ritualistic dating. As you know, Japan is also well-known for nampa culture, so many men also basically ask random strangers out like all the time, so kokuhaku isn't really the rule all men follow. There has to be more than just issue with how kid start their dating life.
@iggyboo
Okay now Anime makes more sense and why those "confessions" are sutch a big deal. It's like being rejected for marriage. Okay that makes it more traumatic.
@jennifersjunkmail5935
So interesting to learn about different cultures. Thanks for sharing.
@randomv3iwer