@Savvynomad225
In his book The Laws of Human Nature, Robert Greene explains how we are all narcissist, but it’s the deep narcissists, those who take it to harmful levels for others, we must avoid.
@massieldelrosario3920
When you actually know someone like this, those phrases are verbatim what they say. This doctor knows his stuff.
@JonathanVachon777
My problem with psychology is that its categorize people when in reality all humans have those traits but in different degree
@henry-bo3np
There are many reasons why some -- abused children, gay people, etc -- are self-hating. But strongly agree that nothing good comes from it. Must find a way to become positive and forward looking.
@TiPitSgtBuddy
Want to break out of narcisismo? Serve others, especially if you can do it without them knowing it was you
@mattpryokra2245
Well…. If I didn’t hate myself already I hate myself more by watching this. Cheers.
@XenIsWhen
Self-hating can also come from growing up with a lot of bullying and criticism. It doesn't help if a therapist becomes one of those bullies -- unless, of course, they're playing a long game financially.
@bobjohnson7020
Internalized abuse will cause a person to focus on themselves. Pain makes anyone selfish. This isn't the same as narcissism but it's an interesting comparison.
@JosiahMonks
Yes! I witnessed this recently and I came to the same conclusion.. Also, for others commenting, this is not quite the same as covert/vulnerable narcissism.
@bryanhood9839
Growing up in a conservative Christian environment i got an overdose of self-hate and second guessing from being taught that almost everything i wanted to do was wrong and sinful, still working to overcome those crazy ideas and how it affects self worth; also trying to rationalize the almost schizophrenic and conflicting ideas of "better do the right thing or else" and "God is love", along all the people who have no hesitation to tell you "what is right" but yet can't agree with each other about "what is right" - it's pretty messed up if you ask me, but they all think they have it all figured out!
@EriPages
This makes sense. The person feels themselves and their behaviors and history to be the exception. 😂
@ToddDouglasFox
Correction: each person has some disconnect. The narcissist is disconnected from the core self. The extreme is someone who does not self reflect in a way that has anything essentially valuable about themselves that they connect to. This something is both about worth and about compassion. I’ve found a lot of male therapists don’t understand this.
@scipioTCG
Sounds like vulnerable narcissism
@everything...interesting
You're talking about the victim narcissist. Four types: cerebral, somatic, elite, victim.
@BeautiHacks
To add to my previous comment…. To add to this… when the ego really becomes a problem is when it’s attached to a lie. A false sense of self. What the Dr. mentioned in this clip seems like more of a depressed narcissistic way of moving through life. A narcissist that didn’t get to live their full potential. A wounded self. A narc that didn’t get their supply of praise and adoration, one that feels like they deserve it even if they don’t. I think that through the use of social media… people are picking up narcissistic traits… never before did normal people get the chance to become famous… never before did we pay attention to likes like we do today. Even the (few) thumbs up on this comment can be cited as a source of egoic supply especially if the ego is not put into check ahead of time. A healthy ego is one that is real with self. It’s an unexaggerated acknowledgment of self. When the scale is balanced the ego is at ease. When the ego is not at ease or if it feels threatened it goes into survival mode and this is where we see the worst of a narcissist. It’s stuck in a freeze state to where it feels endangered. This is a trauma response. Trauma to the ego. Stuck and afraid.
@mynameskaijames
The reasons people hate themselves are specific to what they went through growing up. Bullying, religion, abusive parents, are all things that can cause self-hatred. For people in comments confused on if they're a narcissist or not, there's a clear definition of what makes one, look it up yourself and see if it applies to you.
@keithdrummond1003
They're almost always the hero or victim in most stories.
@BeautiHacks
Everyone is a narcissist to a degree. When we are connected to our egoic self…. There you will find the narcissist from within. Wounded or not wounded… Impaired or not impaired. The Ego is all about SELF. in order to see this clearly egoic detachment needs to occur. This doesn’t mean a person must stay fully detached at all times but in order to perspective shift effectively one must let go of their sense of self for a minute or two or threee. Even our sense of right and wrong takes detaching from our ego because right and wrong has nothing to do with what we want. Hope that made sense.
@THEVURLE
This opened my mind a little more
@blacksnapper7684