@MacM545
"science doesn't give us answers for you as an individual, it gives us answers for what works on average for most people"- very well said, and overlooked by many!
@soqqqy
Well I just started the video but recently life has felt so much easier for me and I think it’s because I’ve 1. been following a lot of Dr. K’s advice about meditation, journalling, and setting boundaries/communicating with people. Which has overall sorted out a good 40% of my problems so far, and 2. I’ve worked a lot on my habit of procrastinating/wanting to be perfect 100% of the time, so I’ve gotten more used to just starting tasks and doing my best, and just starting can often give me the motivation to complete whatever task I thought would take forever. And 3. I’ve made a habit of stretching daily, working out, cooking, washing my face twice a day, and consistently cleaning, and my hard work has finally started to pay off and it doesn’t feel like such a chore to do those things anymore. I’ve also made sure to take the time to see friends at least once every 2 weeks and I’ve just been so very happy and I have no where else to really put this but I couldn’t have done it without Dr. K, so thankyou so much I love the videos <3
@Mel-mu8ox
questions I always ask myself: How do I feel better than I do right now? How do I make tomorrow less hard? If I'm honest with myself, the answer to both tends to be, either, looking after my health mental or physical, or getting something done that I don't want to do
@durandus676
I took a course on communication, and the first chapter in the tiny textbook only about proper emailing was never apologize, always thank someone for helping with xyz situation. Reframe things to a gratitude mindset and you get emails actually responded too. That habit bled into everything and I find myself smiling in heavy traffic.
@maxe-k6w
When it comes to tasks. There are: - Inertia - Tendency towards lethargy and rigidity. Resistance to change. - Passion - Tendency towards ambition and activity. Excitement for change. - Balance - A balance between Inertia and Passion. An overabundance of Resistance makes life hard and sluggish. Doing anything requires substantial motivation and willpower, and both can be drained. You're overwhelmed by dysfunctional resistance. An overabundance of Passion makes life distracted and overwhelming. Doing anything will be erratic, reactionary, disorganized, and you're overwhelmed by dysfunctional desires. A balance of Resistance and Passion makes life 'just right'. Doing anything requires enough motivation without waste and enough resistance to remain focus. You'll use a suitable amount of motivation and energy for the tasks, and you'll experience Eustress and enter the flow-state.
@saincoat
Sometimes I think Dr. K is a monk, and then I realize that he is
@BetterDays_Now
11:43 3 GUNAS : [yogic principle, 3 states that anything can be in] 1. TAMAS (INERTIA ) 2. RAJAS (ACTIVITY OR PASSION) 3. SATVAS ( BALANCE) 17:45. Satvas- 20:45 EAT light, nutritious meals, and do some kind of mind / body practices ( like yoga or Tai chi) where the body has to listen to you and do poses, even though they're kind of hard to do. Caffeine just blunts our ability to sense adenosine, we crash later. Stay away from as many substances as you can. Just nap in the afternoon instead of having coffee. Listen to your body, get enough rest. Be willing to have a difficult life now, in order to have an easier life later. You'll no longer need willpower or motivation because your body and mind are listening to you.
@mindlessmerc483
Dr.K is a very rare gem, psychology is like being offered a template of a car and the tools to repair or improve it, but instead of a car it's the human mind and the tools is the understanding of how it works and the fact that he understands our current generations is amazing as well, I hope more people do what he does, he's kind and amazing!
@mxandrew
Dr. Ks one grey hair from not becoming a monk and then killing it at Harvard Medical School and then helping all these gamers fix themselves 🎉🎉🎉
@AB-dx1co
When you get used to difficult everything becomes easy
@ShenobiYT
A few years back, when I was just getting into video editing, I was totally afraid of trying Adobe After Effects. I had no clue about all those tools and how to fit them into my workflow. But after messing around with it for a while—watching YouTube tutorials and goofing off just for fun (passion projects)—it got way easier. Now, I don't even stress about it as much anymore. People even give me props for using After Effects, probably 'cause they think it's scary too. It's funny how I used to see it just like that before I gradually got the hang of it. This logic can also be applied to video games, try asking a high rank player why they achieved that rank, and pay attention to their response. xD
@jeremyfultineer7
10:56 is where it gets real. I wish I’d known about this concept, I went through life undiagnosed with ADHD chasing every thread of motivation I could find and always feeling gassed from it shortly after. This helps my perspective, approach IMMENSELY. Thanks man.
@WarriorPocky
Aside from the food/body approach, I like the concept of "gaslighting" your own mind to fill it with the thoughts you want it to have. The mind talks a lot, why not shape it to your specifications. I personally enjoy the puzzle challenge of "how do I turn this misery into a perspective that serves me?" They have to be genuine and true though for it to work. Another is the concept of easy vs hard in itself. Like in a previous Dr. K video, he describes this spectrum of pain and pleasure, against the axis of peace vs suffering. Even when things are hard, you can be content and at peace, and do not necessarily have to suffer. The ability to shift from one state to the other consciously (to me) requires quite a bit of inner work, development of perspective/philosophy, and actual skills like pausing, questioning/challenging your thoughts, emptying the mind even.
@Waklacka
15:30 was honestly one of the biggest eureka moments I’ve ever had in terms of mental health/motivation. I just realized that I’ve never truly tried to control my mind but instead motivate it to do what I want it to.
@nightstar2197
The conclusion reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite people: "Don't pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one." ~Bruce Lee Im a man of Balance, and its always an interesting and wonderful feeling to learn that a lot of the stuff Im discovering about Balance ALREADY has foundations throughout human history i.e. a lot of this stuff has already been figured out, and Im just looking in the right spots. Fascinating.
@MH3GL
Computers were "supposed to" make our lives "easier." My life hasn't felt easier since my parents bought our first computer 25yrs ago. In fact, my life always feels easier when I go out into the wilderness,away from my computer, where my phone doesn't work.
@electricanomaly
I love this, I'm glad I learned this lesson early. The ability to float between studying, relaxing, exercising, socializing, and meditating in flow. Don't "try" to do it all, let each thing happens as it does and utilize it while its there, then continue that with the next thing.
@guni_xd
My name is actually Guna so I know the meaning and also I went to yoga college (Bhaktivedanta College of Theology) for one year but it was good to hear it explained in a different way. And a very valuable thing I learned from this video is using my natural motivation (that is rajas) for sattva. It seemed very hard to achieve but now I know how to do it and as you said it doesn't seem difficult anymore. Let's see how I can apply this knowledge to live a better life :)) Wishing happiness to anyone reading this comment!
@bepowerification
I got sober 1,5 years ago after over 20 years of heavy drinking and it was hard at the beginning. at first I just didnt drink and made it but it wasnt really pleasant. then I started going to therapy and an AA group and in the beginning it was hard and I didnt really want to do it - but I dragged my ass there 2 times a week every week. that helped a LOT. then I started working on my mental health, doing meditation, inner child work and so on and now I finally feel happier, am able to enjoy things and cant wait for the next group meeting. never thought I could experience joy again - now I can. so if you want to stop drinking: dont just quit it and suffer. go to AA groups, even if its not enjoyable the first few weeks or months. DO IT. Now I rarely think of alcohol and when I do I feel disgust towards it and that makes me feel good.
@SuntzuDragon