@victorpoya
Ultimate goal controls someone's life. Being financially controlled is the darkest thing Narcissist do. I've been there.
@AprielleCarpenter
my therapist told me that when my parents say “well i gave you a roof over your head” that it’s a birth right and to not feel guilty or let them get to me
@wmlam1301
That’s my mum. When you grow up with a parent like this, you will give up your autonomy and don’t know what you want in life. I tended to hang out with friends who booked the venue they liked, ordered the food they wanted and did the things they liked. Until one friend said I was being too nice and asked me if there something I really wanted, I began to question my submissive nature. I think this is due to my controlling mum’s behaviour towards me for so long.
@aynilaa
This is my mother. I'm 28 and she still tries to control me, and it seems like she's "caring" to others.
@Private_Pookie
The scary part of this is that they will then blame and guilt trip you because they are exhausted from inserting themselves in every situation and now all of a sudden they feel unappreciated smh it really feels like some sort of jedi mind trick when you dont have the tools to identify exactly whats going on with said person.
@artifundio1
Yes! Thank you. They enjoy controling people through illnesses, because it makes them look useful and competent in front of the community.
@awakened9906
Trust your instincts. If your guts tells you "Why am I feeling like I'm a child?", you are being controlled. My MIL does this. Ever since I married her son, I always felt like her son and I are playing 'house' and she, the mother, has to overlook everything we do and decide. I thought I was crazy, until the day she yelled at me and said "Your friends need to be approved by me because I care!" Sure you do.... 😂
@gautamsain2000
Yes. The tyranny of “care”
@paulad.4578
There is a very fine line between someone who seems to be caring and taking care of you and someone else who seems to feel the need to insert themselves in your life to "take care of you" out of the need to insert themselves. Being overly caring and being a busibody can become quite toxic.
@IzabelaWaniek-i1x
Spot on dr Ramani. Unsolicited advice equals criticism and whoever wants to control you doesn’t trust you and is your enemy not a friend.
@francescameloni3948
'You may need that cup of tea, but it may not be worth the psychological sting' ❤
@rickkillian2378
My Dad would say things like "You don't know what you're doing" or "You don't know what you're talking about". It was always "You don't know, They don't know"
@leeannschaffer1433
I'm from The Deep South, and while listening, I couldn't help recalling plantation owners saying, "WE take care of our slaves. They are WAY better off than they'd be on their own."
@Calibri57
I couldn’t even start a home project without him stepping in and taking over…even when he was exhausted from taking over every other household or work project. Then it was, “I do everything around here, why can’t others (meaning me) do more??”
@ralphneptune9881
Abusing someone ill is utter cruelty.
@georgirancour198
i used to love the song, Someone to watch over me, but when you've been watched over incorrectly, you never want that again.
@concheta100
My narc bf said ‘im the only one who cares about you ‘
@jillcatt2135
OMG my ex used to ask "are you OK?" to throw me through a loop. Also, "I worry about you" with a scrunched up super concerned fake expression. I thought something was off and will never get involved with a narc again!
@SparkleAndShine-hh5vv
Omg 😳 you’re literally talking about my narcissistic parents. It’s like you’re talking to my soul and I have chills about it right now.
@lorimoulton17