@Fati-c4gil
I'm struggling to cope with the end of my five-year relationship. Despite my best efforts, I haven't been able to win him back, and the pain of his absence is overwhelming.
@roybrown3391
1. Initial Love Bombing 2. Low self esteem 3 childhood or mental trauma 4. Surface friendships 5. push pull
@saturnexcels
I like a girl that I’m talking to, and I’ve struggled in the past with relationships. I’ve done incredible healing, and I hope that I’m ready for love again. I watched this video to assess myself to make sure that I’m not going into it the wrong way. A red flag for me is any kind of addiction to substance: weed, alcohol, nicotine, drugs, gambling
@MrZtones
I would say I wish I had seen this list before entering a relationship with my ex but experiencing all of these red flags through a single person was the wake up call I needed to learn to love myself enough to stop abandoning myself. You are so right about the importance self-love and knowing ones self worth in dating. It really gives one a lens to filter out the people who will only drain your energy and really brings about the right kind of people because of the energy you admit :)
@texsugi
Your content is really, really good.
@kg9105
Defaulting back to who they really are... good point. That's why taking your time is so important- i learned that the hard way last year
@FrankM
0:30 "Emotionally unavailable and emotionally unaware and damaged people are becoming a lot more prevalent in the dating pool" This is very true. Many women I have gone on dates with, some multiple dates, often lament about their ex-husband/ex-boyfriend out of resentment and pain. A few even cried in front of me, while trauma dumping. Back in April 2025, after six dates, I stopped seeing a woman because I pieced together she was still in love with her ex-boyfriend, who broke up with her. I learned her ex-boyfriend was still married, but in an open-relationship. She still loved him and was hoping he would divorce his wife to be with her. Very sad and all too common. 8:06 Concerning this personal example of men having friends, but not really knowing each other deeply, this is result of how men are conditioned in the world to not value connections the same way as women. Women are encouraged to have deeper connections with their friends, while men are not. Men are not taught to be emotionally vulnerable as women are. In fact, many women see a man's emotional vulnerability as a weakness and negative trait for long-term partnership. Ironically, many women even see it as low self-esteem, which is red flag #2 in this video.
@Godwise69
Perceptive. Made me realize I might be ice cold emotionally, I don't think out of some psychological defense mechanism from some unresolved childhood trauma, more a very individualized, closed-off yet peaceful heart. I am content with and within myself but I seem to really open up in the bedroom or while being under the influence of some psychedelic substance that essentially forces me to expand and connect more with my environment but I always eventually end up just me. I wouldn't say this is necessarily a red flag in life, more a certain state of conscious experience that gives me the option to do and go wherever I want. Finding a partner @ this stage is more like yogi companionship or just cyclic sensualism.
@we2beballin2k
I just want to thank you for another fantastic video. These are points that I actually concluded on my own during my healing journey these last couple of years but to hear it from your mouth after all your experiences and wisdom is a very nice confirmation that im on the right track! The low self esteem one in particular is very nasty imo. If a woman ever shows or tells me that she believes I am "better" than her, I know that inevitably she will leave or in some cases even self sabotage by cheating! But these are things you learn with time that I would have NEVER known when I was dating at 19! Keep up the good work!
@sarahmisseslouie
That’s is a great point about being treated “special” in the start, looking back that was not his normal baseline and after we were in a long term relationship- that effort was so gone it was like he was a totally different person
@venusrx4671
You have deciphered so much for me! Thank you 💖
@EightyThreeKRV
Such a great list. ❤️
@Jamesbond21-c3l
Before you date someone get to know the person first then going out just for looks !!! Real facts
@pamelaharrington3838
My name is Emma. My again ex bf Trenton when we were together he told his ex gf Lilly/best friend that he was dating me but broke down crying after..I told him you never throw away friends..we keep our friends in our lives!!! I saw this as a red flag..right after he told her this Lilly blocked him
@chihiro99-zm4iq
My ex had all of these red flags
@MarianCiobanu-d3s
Being a guy with inferiority complex and chilhood trauma, i'm feeling sad, because it seems the girls and women with this problems are a disaster too,but a red flag should be more like a rude behaviour and to be honest, my mom said my father was the nicest guy before the wedding and never had red flags and he was a REAL BASTARD later. A real evil guy konws how to hide his problems. I am also harmless, very fitted (under 7% bodyfat) and very good in bed so i think guys like me deserve at least one chance.😊
@ScottSnyder-ph7vp
Still think your site is the best.
@mgodschachner
all of it hit home so hard with my last female encounter XD
@dasein9980
6:12 I’m not sure that is entirely true. You’re making the assumption that everyone can pretty much access their past equally when I think according to psychology that’s not actually true. Based on some peoples psychology, certain people are more likely to constantly reflect on and try to relive the past. Other people don’t do it as much, and may in fact be much more focused on where they are going. So when it comes to asking people about their past, certain people will be more inclined to discuss their past because as it is, they are constantly reflecting on it anyway. Other people are going to have the reaction, why are you asking me about this?
@therelovedproject