@storytellingby_jay
“Work takes, it doesn’t give back” and “kids got their revenge, they grew up” Best quotes
@RiaCaringal
I'm not "addicted to success" I'm addicted to "not being yelled at by my boss in grad school, who is the one addicted to success." I just want to exist.
@anwarabazir
"Deal friends are useful. Real friends are useless; they just love you" almost cried
@Ikbeneengeit
Key is to realize that it all doesn't matter. The company will be fine without you. And you should find something to give you meaning rather than your boss's approval. Spoken as a struggling striver.
@PaulMoody
As a recently retired workaholic, this video is spot on. I was addicted to achievement and accomplishment - pays well but at a high personal cost. Now I’m happy because I value and work on relationships (plus doing what “I” want as a retiree)
@overflow7276
I think one of the most essential learnings in life is that noone, I repeat noone, of us is irreplacable. No matter how hard you strive and no matter what you accomplish for your company, once you are gone, you will be forgotten after roughly 3 months. Life will go on. And maybe some people will miss you, but the vast majority of your colleagues will just forget you. And this is true for every level of the corporate ladder. I know, we all want so contribute to something bigger than ourselves, but I think the biggest thing we can contribute to is preserving humanitie's humanity. We are not a species of robots!
@roberthaggard5561
As an old retired geezer, I worked sometimes 8 hrs per day, sometimes 12 and on a few occasions, the 12 was 7 days a week for about 5 weeks. I was an instrument engineer and after some years, I was promoted to managing the section. I quickly found out that I enjoyed doing the work but I hated managing and I soon was able to opt out by quitting and taking a different job. After about 6 years my original company asked me to come back and I did so with the agreement that I would never again be the manager. They agreed and I retired from the company about 16 years later. So be careful what you wish for. If you enjoy what you're doing you might want to stick with it and to hell with the fast track.
@BelindaHong-f8h
I learnt from my avoidant EX that work is true love because work won’t ‘hurt’ them like human. He never trusted any human for one day but he is extremely successful in his career in his ‘CEO club’
@CARPEDIEM-lo7xj
I love his way of speaking and wow the level of understanding he has on life is just wow. Really liked the video.
@i_am_processing_
Seeking success is hard, because we always move the goalposts and increase the criteria on what success is. We reach a higher level and tell ourselves, let's go higher. It's a never ending cycle of constantly striving. Eventually it leads to burnout and disillusionment.
@GuiSievert
This video was like a punch in my stomach that i wasnt expecting, but is very clear that i needed. Im exactly that person. This behavior was something that i wasnt able to see clearly, but that i felt as a problem i could not identify. Thank you, really.
@overtherainbow12345
I grew up seeing my workaholic parents.. had a lot of friends in school & college but turned out to be exactly like my parents after I started working. Its been 2 decades now and I'm guilty of everything u said about success & work. However along my journey I also saw the true colors of my closest friends & partner and realized that the relationship that I need is one that doesn't stab me in the back and hence being a workaholic was far better than people whom you expect to love you back
@devyanisrinivasan8141
As an introvert striver whose only close relationship with my partner, I found it so comforting to know that I am not alone but also that there are steps that I can take to change that seem feasible and not unachievable.
@bruisecruise
a different take on the root cause of workaholism – as Dr. Gabor Maté argues, addiction (including workaholism) stems from unresolved childhood trauma, where work becomes a form of self-soothing. this can (and perhaps often does) coexist with the need for external validation i.e. success suggested by Arthur Brooks in this video. this suggests that workaholism is a complex behavior shaped by various internal and external drivers that vary significantly across individuals.
@bosnianowl91
"Happiness is love." Thank you for this quote and video.❤
@luccalasmar800
this man's style is on point!
@jimmyliu_youtube
Although I feel 90% of my work is enjoyable and rewarding, the best moments of my life are with family and friends.
@mrcream9749
It's such a great high when you achieve a goal and succeed - especially in the face of recognition. In recent years, turning 53 - wiser older blah blah blah - I've come to realise that we all need an emotional intelligence to accept the absence of success or situational achievement , is not problematic. It's life. Laws of the universe. Amazing share with the world - I feel like I just got free access to a uni lecture from arguably one of the greatest institutions. Thanks!!
@SueAnnaJoe
For me, workaholism is about staying productive out of fear of punishment and shame. It's childhood stuff. What are your thoughts on that? Yes, I've been in therapy, in and out for the last 30 years.
@harvardbusinessreview