I do journaling since i was a kid. One thing i notice that makes a huge difference when processing emotions is honesty. Sometimes i feel ashamed to admit what i feel, even though I'm alone. I often feeling like I'm being judged by being too vulnerable.
Keeping a journal or talking to an empty chair absolute are my go-tos. Something somebody said or did during the day can make me want to process it in the evening.
Would love to see a version of this aimed at children. I think this could help them grow skills that are often not taught.
As someone who had trouble recognizing and processing my feelings, the biggest thing is allowing yourself to feel those feelings without judgement. Not pushing them away because you don’t want to feel them, but allowing them to come up to the surface for release. That means sitting in the uncomfortableness of your emotions and after a while processing them won’t be uncomfortable but a natural.
And remember to always follow up the 'what' question with 'why' "Why do i feel like this?" It helps you understand yourself more. When you ask this questions, try not to be biased about your reason and don't lie to yourself especially when your angry. After it's been processed, just then u will decide how you will act on it. That's just a technique I've heard/learned.
This little short is absolute perfection, such a complicated thing explained in a simple way
Can't imagine NOT doing this during trauma. It helps with the healing in a faster and more intense way. Also, I love how this video explains how one of my parts (internal family system) works now.
Yes, to this video. I love and appreciate my own emotions. People always try to make emotions a bad thing. But idc. I always treat them like they are me. They tell me things about myself, whether good or bad. Right or wrong. I take time to understand them. What they are, why they are, and why I use them the way I do, and what's producing the ones that cause negative thoughts and feelings. I believe it's the best way to know myself, learn, and grow and treat others with respect. And most important to have good mental health!
My brother inherited the inability to process emotions from my Dad. It led to him reaching out to conspiracy theories to explain what he couldn’t cope with emotionally,and staying perpetually angry instead in his world of alternate facts.
What I absolutely hate is when I have anxiety about something because of past experience and I genuinely can’t tell if a want/need is based in the fear of that experience repeating or in a genuine desire. They blend together to the point the anxiety feels like a genuine protective emotion even if it’s just giving you a worst case scenario.
Emotional Resilience is an important skill
Dbt therapy has greatly improved my abilities to process emotions, especially difficult ones.
I love how 'carving out' is depicted in this video
every thought arises from a feeling. thats why what you do and your environment is important.
If our thoughts create our emotions then it’s our beliefs that hold the most power
Incredible as always! I think this is why journaling helped me so much, even though I hated the thought of journaling when it was suggested to me by my therapist. It's a good check in point.
Contrary to contemporary dogma, there’s such a thing as mis-identifying your own emotions.
When i don't feel comfortable with my emotions I ask What belief makes me feel that way? (I'm not good enough, I am not heard etc) and process it, starting with the question Is that true? And yes, being honest is very helpful. Then i write what i think/feel finishing with a mantra opposite to that belief with constructive one. Finishing on positive makes me feel much better.
Emotions are like bogeymen, when you name them, they are not so scary.
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