@UnfilteredMay
something that i noticed everytime "are you crying?" was asked is the accusatory and kind of shocked tone, rather than a tender and loving show of support
@Felixia33
I hated that Thor grief's was played as a joke. He lost everything, his home, his family and then he does even get to cry when seeing his death mother after years?
@Quarter_Turn
Wait, I never noticed that--- fathers can cry at heir daughters' weddings, but not their sons'. That's so weird.
@frodobaggins4794
i'll die mad about how marvel played thor's weight gain & alcoholism in response to losing everyone he loved for laughs
@ninjahunter101
Why am I not surprised that The Big Bang Theory had a perfect example of a man tearing up being used as a cheap joke?
@sohanurrahman3006
Lord of the rings handled this so well. The male characters openly showed affection for one another, whether it be a kiss on the forehead or verbal appreciation. Their tears were never shunned by others. "I will not say 'do not weep', for not all tears are evil" - Tolkien
@artmoryoo
I wonder if the whole "boys don't cry" thing is also responsible for the reason why most strong women in media don't cry. Many movies have included the roles of strong, competent women (girlbosses, if you will lol) and one thing that many of those roles have in common is that they are stripped of all traditionally feminine traits. Rather than showing that a woman can be both strong and feminine, she primarily, or exclusively, displays masculine traits (personality wise of course, they still have to keep her looking sexy). This includes the strong woman not crying unless those same windows of opportunity for men occur.
@AceHBK972
This makes me think about how Marvel handled Thor'a grief vs how they handled Wanda's. Thor's was for laughs & jokes while Wanda's was taken more seriously.
@Operation_FUBAR
That’s one of my favorite things about the Lord of the Rings movies, actually. The male characters, including so-called “manly man” Aragorn, all express their emotions freely. And they’re never ridiculed or seen as lesser by their companions. I really wish more popular media would follow suit. It’d make for much more interesting and diverse characters, in my opinion.
@willeo8371
I have an advice for parents. When your young children cry a lot, it can be exhausting, so you might be tempted to tell them ‘stop crying so much’. But in my experience it is WAY more efficient to sit down with them and invite them with a warm voice to cry as much and as loud as they need. Often they stop within a minute. Trying to fight back tears is in fact causing more later.
@midnight9178
When I was 17 my grandpa passed away after a long battle with cancer, my entire family was sobbing at the funeral but I held it all in, not letting myself look weak in front of them. Not shedding a tear for one of the greatest men I’ve ever known is still one of my biggest regrets.
@kristalcampbell3650
Ultimate take away: uncle iroh is everything and he deserves more praise.
@camicuti97
Honestly saying "Are you crying?" in a mocking manner is such an asshole thing to do and idk why this trope is still a thing in shows + movies -- most people would probably ask "Are you okay?" SMH
@Ffinha
I just recently watched Avangers End Game and got really angry at how everybody tormented Thor for clearly been on a depression crises.
@chockontecohs
who else got the "stop crying or ill give you something to cry about" treatment as if you started crying for no reason every single time lol amazing video, thank you for bringing awareness! normalize having emotions like a human being
@snooopert1048
"But the myth that vulnerability is synonymous with a complete loss of control, and therefore incompatible with power, is so corrosive and so strong that many men have come to believe they must kill their emotional sides in order to be useful members of society." brb just reevaluating my entire existance
@KuroNeko22949
My father was a really good man, he never said to me "boys don't cry" but my school did pretty often, until one of my closest friend commits suicide, because of the expectations the school put on him, in that time I had 15 years, when i received the news i was...shocked to say the least, but I don't shed any tear, until I enter my home, my father see my face, he didn't know what happened, then he hugged me and just say "let it out" I cry over an hour. Sadly my father left us 2 years ago, but I never forget what he do in that time, when I needed release the sadness I had in that day.
@shanedonaldson5940
One of the first things I ever noticed when trying to consume media critically was how cheap men crying in film/tv usually is. Like it tells the audience "Do you get how important this scene is, he's crying!" a lot of times without earning it!
@sethr.c1065
A coworker was murdered last year. He had a hard life, and was loved by many in the small company I work for. He was always trading pranks and practical jokes with myself and others, and many of us even hung out with him after work. He was that type who is modest, yet fun loving and genuine, and never lacked for a joke. He was killed with his own shotgun over some weed, petty cash, and an Xbox. The vigil held for coworkers, family, and friends was hard. I couldn't help but to tear up every five minutes... I told a buddy there I don't like crying in public, and he said it's a sign of strength. Nonetheless, I can't help but remember that show of emotion as weakness. This is like an essay on why I'm wrong to regret crying. Thank you.
@snowpocalypse69