@cesarvielma1532
Einzelganger is therapy
@BarrettBiggers
Speaking from years of experience as a "result" of hypermasculine trauma / body dysmorphia in males: I wasted sooooo much time worrying what others were thinking about me and truly nobody really cares about you in the end - you make meaningful connections once you find people who also are vulnerable and kind. I wasted years of my life away stressing over what other men were thinking - sizing me up at the gym or trying to manipulate me by overpowering me in social interactions. And with fears women were only deciding if the size of my muscles or my face shape were good enough criteria to consider as a potential partner. Which was extremely narrow-minded thinking towards women but had seen it play out time and time again. I was lucky to have met a woman that changed my perspective considerably. She loves me for who I am and she happened to be from an East Asian culture which I believe is generally less fixated on sexual attractiveness being focused more on hyper masculinity "alpha bro" traits in males. In the end everyone has a spectrum of likes and desires but the way your are raised and your cultural/media influences as a child play enormous roles in how you develop healthy self love or self hatred. I have gained self confidence but do admit I still feel body shame and weakness around other macho guys because trauma takes a long time to heal. To all you teenagers and 20 year olds the modern world you have grown up in is fast furious and pretty cut throat. You truly have to be authentic to yourself and not concern yourself with other's opinions on your physical attributes or competitiveness. Even before social media and TikTok - the focus in America especially has been for men to be tough no matter what you can't quit or cry or express any complaints. It is true you should try your best to your own self satisfaction but you should not let these so called "society rules" control your self worth image. You can be a strong and confident male without being an alpha a**hole by being humble and vulnerable. You can be the biggest man in the room by not being the biggest one in the room.
@Bombadil-ez9ns
I had a Drill Sergeant in Basic Training. Exactly as tough as you would expect. But he told us, "Don't knock crying. I've had soldiers cry in front of me, and then immediately become stars of the unit."
@kredit787
Also, being vulnerable gives you information which allows you to see who's a friend or enemy who will take advantage of you.
@robot7759
Unfortunately there usually is someone around who will take advantage of your vulnerability and abuse you ☹️ Be careful whom you're vulnerable around.
@apjaroszuk
This channel is a beacon of hope in the darkness displayed sometimes by the human mind. Every time I feel confused or lost, anxious or depressed, I come across with one of these videos and every time I emerge relieved, with a sense of hope and clarity. Thank you very much for your work, as it's not only very beautiful and entertaining but also of great assistance in times of sorrow. Bless you, my friend!
@ЯсенЧапкънов
Vulnerability is a strenght when chosen by you and a weakness when discovered by others.
@SUCCESSCHASERS
I absolutely agree, being vulnerable is true power. It shows you're brave enough to be real and that's where real strength lies. It lets us connect, grow, and inspire each other in the most genuine way. So, yeah, showing your true colors? That's where the magic happens. Thank you for another great video :)
@Reality-Distortion
The truth is that the biggest factor in vulnerability actually working out as a strength - is luck. You say it's easier to come to terms with if we embrace the uncertainty and follow up with 2 questions of what will happen if this goes right/wrong with already assumed idea that the benefits greatly outweigh the risk, for reasons not really clear to me. Also the idea of "it's their problem for judging me, not mine" is very dependent on context. If their presence in your life does make a difference in the first place, then their potential change in treatment towards you WILL be your problem, regardless of whatever disingenuous coping you come up with.
@ashleylitebrite6971
Those people who see vulnerability as weakness don't deserve your time. Thank them and move on. Life is short. Love to all
@darkvoidwisdomph
Mom died 10 days ago... As a man, I'm not the type of person who shows weaknesses, but in rough times... I've shown it to my relatives and reaped the benefits of their help when it comes in the process of funeral and burial of my mom... And after that trial, it strengthens my bond to them and becomes a better person...
@feverandfret
Great vid. The desire to be "invulnerable" correlates with perfectionism and all the pitfalls that come with that fruitless pursuit. As Voltaire once said, "Perfect is the enemy of the good."
@ggnome7
Thanks!
@atis9061
It takes courage to be vulnerable! And deep down everyone knows this because we're all share that same human link. You are not going to grow if you repress your weaknesses and once you begin to embrace them, you will feel a freedom and space to 'breathe'. Smart people don't follow the crowd and they incite envy in the followers because everyone deep down knows they got to be special because they embraced their weaknesses which now allows them to be authentic.
@fgghttjjj
Vulnerability is important, specially when you're facing a grief.
@DarkoSubotin
Transforming vulnerability into strength demands both wisdom and experience, which ironically requires embracing vulnerability. It's a challenging journey, akin to a warrior without armor. This warrior, scarred yet skilled, chooses mastery over protection, proving vulnerability doesn't equal weakness. In reality, it can be appealing, showcasing survival without layers of defense. However, it's not about recklessly exposing oneself to harm, which is foolishness, not bravery. In unavoidable interactions, showing calculated vulnerability may align more with our objectives. Yet, in seeking genuine connections, especially in dating, being open is key. Those who conceal their vulnerability often react negatively towards it in others, reflecting their own discomfort. In essence, true connection thrives on the courage to be vulnerable. Moreover, embracing vulnerability isn't a superficial tactic or a shortcut to confidence. Its authenticity is what renders it powerful. It can't be mimicked; the genuineness of vulnerability is its strength. This is because real vulnerability requires a level of self-awareness and courage that can't be fabricated. It's about showing up as you are, not as you think you should be. In a world that often values facades, choosing to be genuinely vulnerable is a defiant act of bravery.
@igoretski
I think, this is about honesty to ourselves and to others about our weaknesses and the courage to work at it and accept help. It is not about vulnerability. What is the difference? Vulnerability is risking to be too emotional and down, to be whiny and give in. That's not power. I think, the Stoics would not agree that vulnerability is a desirable trait. Also in the movie "The Kings Speech", Berty is not becoming whiny. It's about honesty. Honesty is the first step to work the problem and get help, not to give in.
@lucianowillemse8244
Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but emotional maturity
@N3i2m42
My vulnerability lies in my mental health. I have been living with a terrible illness for a very long time, which is now manifesting itself in such a way that I can no longer maintain the interests I once had. It takes a lot of time to accept this because these are interests that have accompanied me throughout my life. And the disease itself is not completely accepted, unfortunately. Great video!
@noseefood1943