@elisabetta4571
Thank you so much for this content. I wish I could understand myself the way I do now thanks to the insights you provide when I needed, and didn't know the first thing about myself and how I was functioning.
@baileymoran8585
Im proudly not a vulnerable person. I was too reserved for years, but now I have found a middle ground that works for me. I have very few people who will ever hear details, outside of my therapist. I may give a reader’s digest explanation like ‘I’m not feeling well’ or ‘I’ve had some stressors in my personal life come up. I’m just trying to get my mind off of it,’ to people I know, but aren’t super close. I still just stick to ‘ one of your business’ if I don’t know someone, or we don’t know each other very well, or they are someone in a professional setting. Vulnerability is dangerous. Not just in the sense of someone shaming you, not caring, or telling others after they swore they wouldn’t. These are bad enough, but some people will use your pain and struggle to manipulate you into playing the part that they want from you. So many people do this and yet the world is encouraged to TMI dump on total strangers, like you should trust everyone who makes eye contact with you. I am legit worried for people like this. I know many are just doing it for attention, but I’m also finding that many aren’t even aware they are doing it. They feel like they aren’t entitled to boundaries so they spill even the most uncomfortable things like it’s just a funny anecdote about something weird that happened at work.
@Ivcp78
Deep ! Thank you Heidi !
@dakinilikes9250
Omg #2 is a huuuge prob for me rn trying to communicate with my husband 😭 ty
@florenciazacco7752
This is gold
@jakebroido6281
Highly disagree that people who expect a reaction from vulnerability do it in an illicit way. People should be careful to accept these blanket generalizations presented as fact. It is entirely normal in many long term romantic relationships for vulnerable moments to be those where partners are there for each other. Not sure why the bias is so strong on this topic in particular but your framing of this is an opinion. It is entirely natural, possible, and health for two people to be in a loving relationship where both people have moments of vulnerability in an aim to have support from a dependable partner. Take all things with a grain of salt here.
@henrytwigger2245
Don't knock FWBs
@WhiteColonizer