Stop Chasing, Start Trusting: The Power of 'No Big Deal' Energy

In Monday's Inspired Action session in the She Boss Cafe, we talked about the power of practicing "No Big Deal Energy" vs "Hustle Energy" to gain traction in our lives and businesses.

Here’s why it matters.

✨ Hustle Energy thrives on pressure, pushing you to chase deadlines and prove yourself. While it may feel productive, it often leads to burnout, disconnection from your intuition, and reliance on external validation.

✨ No Big Deal Energy is rooted in calm, clarity, and trust. It’s about letting go of the need to control everything and trusting that things will unfold optimally. You’re aligned, open to guidance, and focused on what truly matters.

Here's what that can look like in real life:

Personal Life:
Parenting:
When your child is struggling with a school project or feeling stressed, instead of jumping in to fix everything or stressing alongside them (Hustle Energy), practice NBD Energy. Encourage them, but remain calm, trusting in their ability to figure it out. This shows confidence in them and keeps you both grounded.

Relationships
During a disagreement with a partner or friend, instead of trying to win or prove your point (Hustle Energy), lean into NBD Energy by focusing on listening and understanding. Trust that the conversation will unfold in a way that strengthens the relationship without forcing it.

Health Goals:
Instead of pushing yourself to achieve a rigid workout routine or specific diet plan (Hustle Energy), approach your wellness journey with NBD Energy. Trust that small, consistent actions—like intuitive eating or a 15-minute walk—are enough to bring about positive change over time.

Business Life:
Client Relations:
When pitching a project or handling client feedback, instead of overworking to please or prove your worth (Hustle Energy), use NBD Energy by remaining calm and confident. Trust in the value of your work without stressing about perfecting every detail. It creates an energy of ease that clients appreciate.

Launching a Product or Service:
Hustle Energy would have you staying up late, obsessing over every detail of your launch, and fearing failure. NBD Energy allows you to trust the process. You’ve done the work, and now you let it flow, open to adjusting as needed. This mindset shift can keep you energized and receptive to creative ideas instead of burning out.

Leadership:
As a leader, instead of micromanaging or trying to control outcomes (Hustle Energy), practice NBD Energy by delegating tasks with trust and empowering your team to succeed on their own. Trusting your team to handle their responsibilities fosters collaboration and reduces stress.

Bonus Tip:
You could even make it an intentional practice—set a reminder each morning to ask, “How can I practice No Big Deal Energy today?” It could be as simple as stepping back during a chaotic moment and allowing things to fall into place rather than trying to control them.

This mindset shift helps you focus on energy that uplifts and sustains rather than drains and depletes.

BTW, If you think your Hustle tendencies are blocking your success, find out your Self-Love & Success score and get practical tips by taking this Quiz:

👉link.pauseboxco.com/whats-your-self-love-score